How to Keep Someone with You Forever (the sick system)
Posted: Thu Jun 17, 2010 2:11 pm
http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
Amazing read...
I realize I was definitely raised in a sick system. Having the epiphany doesn't free me from it though. The mentality is cancerous.
The big clue is the things I think about myself, the things I tell myself and my behavior...
I believe I am worthless and that I am the only person keeping some of my family on their feet. The only one who can take care of them. (namely my mother and the mother of my nephew and niece.) I become anxious and uneasy, overwhelmed by this feeling of dread and doom when things are going well. The longer the interim between tragedy/crisis the more neurotic I become until 1. something goes bad 2. I screw up/self-destruct and thus MAKE something go bad.
That feeling of euphoric relief when the crisis happens, that thought of "thank God it's over" Oh God,... that's not healthy. I'm reinforcing myself, this is the sound of B.F. Skinner orgasming.
The worst part is, I don't know if I'm out of it yet, being aware of it only helps me beat myself up more when I get into those behaviors/beliefs.
Not only that, I'm terrified I've learned the Way of the Sick System and that I might be doing this to Kiz...
So how does one truly get free? How does one unlearn and extinguish this?
Amazing read...
I realize I was definitely raised in a sick system. Having the epiphany doesn't free me from it though. The mentality is cancerous.
The big clue is the things I think about myself, the things I tell myself and my behavior...
I believe I am worthless and that I am the only person keeping some of my family on their feet. The only one who can take care of them. (namely my mother and the mother of my nephew and niece.) I become anxious and uneasy, overwhelmed by this feeling of dread and doom when things are going well. The longer the interim between tragedy/crisis the more neurotic I become until 1. something goes bad 2. I screw up/self-destruct and thus MAKE something go bad.
That feeling of euphoric relief when the crisis happens, that thought of "thank God it's over" Oh God,... that's not healthy. I'm reinforcing myself, this is the sound of B.F. Skinner orgasming.
The worst part is, I don't know if I'm out of it yet, being aware of it only helps me beat myself up more when I get into those behaviors/beliefs.
Not only that, I'm terrified I've learned the Way of the Sick System and that I might be doing this to Kiz...
So how does one truly get free? How does one unlearn and extinguish this?